Help for Couples in Sussex & Online via Zoom

Helping your relationship through counselling

​Relationships are the central theme of our lives.  Our primary and intimate relationships are said to reflect our relationship with our parents when we were babies.  It is within our intimate relationships, be it male-female or same sex, that we unconsciously repeat the same attachment and bonding style learnt in early childhood.   Sometimes our relationship attachment or bonding style helps us to maintain healthy relationships, despite ups and downs, and sometimes our attachment style hinders us.

Couples may feel they've grown apart and this may indicate that both people have values that aren't in alignment with each other.  Our values change as we experience life but if our bonding is secure, we lovingly support each other.  For other couples they may find they're struggling with their communication and no longer feel understood, listened to or loved. Communication mismatch may be a source of frustration within the relationship.  
A qualified and registered therapist since 1996, Angela Jullings has worked with many couples in her busy practices - firstly in London and now Horam, Sussex, as well as online via video.  Her method of treatment is based mainly on the works of Sue Johnson, author and relationship therapist who believes problems arise in an intimate relationship when individuals are experiencing a loss of connection and secure attachment to their partner.  

Whether you wish to build bridges in your relationship, re-connect, re-bond, understand each other more or smooth the path of separation and divorce, the way in which Angela works can help couples have a deeper understanding of what's going on for them and their partner.  She's worked with a variety of couples of all ages as well as gay couples, heterosexual, married, living together, engaged couples and those who are about to part.

​Relationship counselling with Angela helps clients to restore balance and harmony whilst promoting bonding.  Bonding gives us stability and connection in our relationships. Whether you've gone off track, your relationship is under strain, you're entering a new relationship or about to be married and wish for marriage guidance, you may find working with Angela beneficial.
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"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”  
​Louis de Bernieres, Captain Corelli's Mandolin ​
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