Help with Trust Issues, Affairs & Betrayal
Understanding which type of affair you or your partner has been involved in can ease confusion. The betrayed will almost certainly want details, have lots of questions and will want to understand exactly how this could have happened. You, the unfaithful may feel just as confused as your partner about your affair.
Angela can help you understand and heal the pain. Sometimes one or both partners can't move forward in the marriage due to the lack of trust and the pain involved. Angela can assist couples in understanding, accepting and finding options for themselves.
Secrets damage bonding. Secrets keep us separate. We're told affairs are more common than we realise. The discovery of a partner's affair can be devastating. You may feel abandoned, alone, bewildered, numb, overwhelmed or angry. What you once relied upon and trusted is now alien or in question. You feel betrayed and uncertain of what happens now. You may be having an affair yourself and in the midst of confusion, denial and secrecy.
There are many types of affairs - casual, emotional, opportunistic, double-life, sexual, love and addiction, etc. Sometimes there are problems in the marriage/relationship and the unfaithful partner is trying to escape those feelings and those problems instead of working through the issues in the main relationship. Sometimes the affair is an attempt by the unfaithful partner to find something within themselves and is no reflection of the marriage. Other times, the affair is an attempt to end the marriage or relationship.
The discovery of an affair can signal the end of a union between the unfaithful and the betrayed. However, it doesn't have to be that way and doesn't have to end in divorce or separation. Such relationships can and do heal and move forward, often with a stronger bond and understanding of oneself, our partner and our relationship.